Men or Women?


Last night, I was on the phone with a friend during the "Jon and Kate plus 8" interview on Dateline. My girlfriend and I went back and forth with this one....

If a couple gets divorced, who Usually gets RE-married first????

The Man or The Women


What do you think???

24 comments:

duchess said...

Interesting topic.
I'm going to say the man because they usually need someone to take care of them.

Tricia Anne said...

hmm...
depending on the reasons behind the divorce, i would guess it would be the husband
sincerely ~ tricia anne

ps
what was your answer?

Jboo said...

I think it's usually the man.

Janet

Lisa & Gerald said...

Too funny Men..

Joanna said...

Man...for sure. Because they don't want to cook and clean nor do their laundry!

Ruby Red Slippers said...

Men!!!

Carrie said...

Men I think

Anonymous said...

Dearest Sandy Toes...
From my past experiences...I would go with the woman!!!!
All the way W - O - M - A - N!!!!!

Lindy

the lady of the house said...

I watched that interview too. I think it just depends are circumstances - I think a lot of time women will get married first for that NEED to be taken care of especially if they have a brood of children and the man leaving isn't helping... then again maybe it would be the man because he was going without so much in his marriage for so long (Jon Gosselin) that it feels so good to finally be heard, respected, and truly taken care of. This can go the other way too - I wonder what the statistics really are for this.

I feel for Jon and Kate. I/We obviously don't really know the real/true story but when I first started watching their show I was excited because they were so "real life" they announced they were christians and a lot of the things they said kind of lined up with the beliefs and morals but slowly we just watched it all fall apart. With all those kids there I my heart just aches for them. What a mess...

Kacey R. said...

Oooh fun question. I missed the Dateline interview. In general, I think the man gets into a relationship first - and that could lead to getting married first also.

Anonymous said...

I think it depends entirely on the situation. I know a lot of men who are waiting, and I know some that rushed right back into marriage. I know some women the same. For men, I think a lot of them have like a mid life crisis. We have a few friends like this. They took on too many responsibilities when they were young and then burst out in the late 30's and early 40's. I think it depends on how wound tight their situation is. Look at John, he is now acting like a teenage boy. She was way too uptight with him. And yet I totally understand with all those kids, she had to be tough. He is acting like a rebelous teenager. I see this with people's kids, they raise them so uptight and then they get into to the thick of the teen years and their kids pop. So all in all my answer is both. Some women will hop back in and some men. The funny thing is most second and third marriages never make it. We have allready seen this with our friends. Maybe they should figure out why they got divorced first and fix their problems, then they may have better luck.

Montee said...

I will vote for the man. That was the case in my parent's divorce and of several others that I know of. Does this mean women are mentally and emotionally stronger? Of course. :)

LuLu said...

First thing out of my mouth when I read this was man.
I think the woman doesn't want to go through a divorce again and thus takes her time.
my 2 cents.
I had my first pumpkin spice latte and thought of you!
have a good day!!
LuLu

Darlene said...

Hmmmmm I think it is usually the man and with a younger woman!!

Mari said...

I think Men!

Jo said...

I would probably say men but I too think it depends on why they got divorced in the first place.

Jo

SPEAKING FROM THE CRIB said...

in my case, it was ME! i think women are LOOKING to get married again, but men might be like THANK GOD I ESCAPED THAT NIGHTMARE and be hesitant to get married again so soon.

Jodee Leader said...

Almost always men!!!

I can't believe I missed this interview!!!

Anonymous said...

Reading these responses is funny! I think its funny how many think men. I have such a self confident husband, and I tuely feel he would have been fine on his own if he didn't find the right one. He has good friends and hobbies. But I have seen a lot of men who really need the attention. They get married right away, as if they need that woman on their arm to feel confident. Maybe their are more insecure men out there than women. After all we are always working on our feelings?! If I were to be fair though, I'd say there are probabally a fair shake of insecure women as well, that cling to the first thing that makes them feel good. Maybe people should think more about it before they jump into marriage. Our friends that rushed in are either divorced or heading for divorce court. Our friends who took their time finding that right person and learning about each other ahead are still together. I feel bad about the Jon and Kate thing, I think ten years from now, they will wish they had worked at it. Its seems their marriage was less of a partnership and more of a parent child relationship, thats unhealthy and eventually one party will rebel. Anyhow, I think its a good example of how things can go awry quickly, and we need to take and pay attention to how we treat each other. And I don't mean date nights, you can't make up for poor treatment and communication with date nights. If its not working out none of those can help you. I hear this all the time, and most of our divorced friends got lots of time alone. Funny how that is. Its like getting flowers on Valentines, the daily things count more. Food for thought reading all these posts.

Suzann @ The Olive Cottage said...

Interesting...
I think it really all depends.
In my case, I got married first.
In my husband's case, he got married first.
I could list them on and on, but I don't think we'd ever get our answer.
What was your conclusion.?

Sandy aka Doris the Great said...

The man! My theory? Men find that they crave the companionship of a female whereas women discover that they really like their own companionship over others, at least most of the time.

That's my theory and I'm stickin' to it!

Half Gaelic, Half Garlic! said...

As soon as I read this, I instantly thought "MEN", but then I realized, I got remarried before my ex.....even though there were almost 4 years between the two marriages, I still went first! I guess it depends on the situation:)

Lisa

Liz said...

In the case of my sweet husband (who married young and divorced 1.5 years later), he remarried first. But I really believe it just depends on the person.

Karin Katherine said...

hmmmm, I am going to say the man.