Last night, it came to me that I am not sure how I feel about it. There are some relationships in our lives...good or bad...that should be memories. If it weren't for FACEBOOK you would probaly never cross paths.
Do I care that someone I went to kindergarten with- is taking a bath? Or scraping ice off their window? Does that enrich my life?
Or do they care that I rode down water slides all night? Or that I am craving a starbucks? I haven't talked to them in over 20 years and now they know when I brush my teeth.
How is that we share some of our most personal thoughts...the lives of our families....our struggles and celebrations. We are an open book for all to read.
Years ago, we use to write all this stuff in a diary behind lock and key....now it's available for all to read with just a click of a button.
What do you think??????
67 comments:
I don't do facebook....I spend way too much time blogging, and my feeling is...if there are people I want to talk to from my past, then I am already in touch with them....or I already see them on a regular basis! I know many people love facebook....it is not my thing.....I will stick with the blogging!
Hope you week is off to a great start!
Lisa
Yes I facebook mainly because I have a teenager and I want to track her life and other stuff on facebook but God has reconnected me with some GREAT old friends that I do care about and am blessed to be back hanging with. I have only been blogging a few months and if I had the choice-BLOGGING WOULD WIN OUT! WE also just got back from Great WOlf (couple weeks ago)-fun place :) We go a couple times a year :)
personally I LOVE facebook, but I dont really share the details about my life that I wouldnt share on my blog. I connected with a lot of people from highschool, college, and church there and even rekindled some friendships that have really been amazing. But I DEFINATLY think it could be abused and not used for anything productive!!
i really don't "get" facebook either. but i hear some people don't "get" blogs. odd.
I like Facebook, but Blogging is way funner!
I like Facebook, but Blogging is way funner!
i do facebook and myspace, for the record. i'm convinced it is just an easy way for people to stalk you.
No facebook for me!
Hugs and Mocha,
Stesha
I don't do facebook. I joined that crazy Myspace a while back and I am really not crazy about that either. I love blogging!
I Facebook, but I don't update my status very often. I find it's a good way to keep in touch with people.
I facebook, but it's because some of my best friends live far away from me. We keep track of each other through Facebook and send messages to each other as a group. I really enjoy it because I love pictures and it is a great place to see them and to keep them.
I don't get on Facebook or MySpace, other than to take a look at Brittany's from time to time. In today's world, you have to be on top of things!
I've never had a desire to do the whole Facebook thing...not really sure why. I think blogging is much more suited to me. I just feel it's a safer forum to express yourself...I've heard too many bad things about Facebook and MySpace.
Have a terrific Tuesday!!!♥
I don't Facebook,never even been there. I love Blogging and that's all I have time for.
Hugs,
Chris
you know... i agree! i wa a little pressured by some friends to try it out...and i really dislike it. i don't get it. as a matter of fact, when i saw your photo of the fb for dummies, i thought... they have that? and then i thought... with all of the threatening i have done about quitting becasue i don't get it, one is bound to show up in my mailbox!! so i haven't quit... but i sure don't tell people when i am brushing my teeth!!
I signed up for FB because several people recommended I should do it. It's okay. I don't do much on it, i.e. answer peoples requests to join other things, throw snowballs, darts, or whatever else you can throw at people, and I've never played the games I hear so much about.
I much prefer blogging and posting my photos on my blog, although I have reconnected with some more distant family members so that's a good thing.
This is so funny. I feel the SAME way. I don't care what people are doing...really.
I don't check mine but maybe ONE time a month. no big deal here.
I've resisted Facebook ...up until recently. The ONLY reason I joined was so that I could chat with my sister. I haven't spoken with her in many, many months. So far I've only been able to chat with her once but that's better than not at all!
I did join facebook recently to see what all the fuss was about & now I'm just like you. Do I really need to know this? It is a convienent way to keep in touch with distant family and good friends quickly but other than that....???
I'm more of a bloggin' girl.
I have both myspace and facebook I love them all I guess it just what floats your boat.
Love FB!! It's way more fun when you have active friends or lots of friends who post fairly regularly. I've learned more interesting tidbits about people I've known IRL for 8-10 years just in the few months I've been on FB.
Well, I don't facebook, actually I have never looked at it on the computer before either.Maybe because I married a military man and have moved so much that I always look ahead verse back... my friends that I have scattered all over are deep friends that we still contect with even if it's just twice a year (we will catch up for 2 hours on the phone sign off with many missing you and wish we still lived near each other and warm wishes till we speak again,,, hihg school was fun but that was then this is now.. does that make sense...
LuLu
Yeah, the facebook thing is weird-you know I have one since you are one of my "facebook friends".
What I want to know is if I press "ignore", to a friend request-do they know I did that?
What if they are someone I just don't remember???
I check it out once in a while-but, I still like my blog better-much cuter, and more personal.
One benefit to facebook is that I can check up on all my teen neices and nephews...they all seem to love it...
Yeah, the facebook thing is weird-you know I have one since you are one of my "facebook friends".
What I want to know is if I press "ignore", to a friend request-do they know I did that?
What if they are someone I just don't remember???
I check it out once in a while-but, I still like my blog better-much cuter, and more personal.
One benefit to facebook is that I can check up on all my teen neices and nephews...they all seem to love it...
Not a facebooker, because really, I think I'm too old for it. I enjoy blogging and reading blogs (yours, especially!), and try to somewhat limit my computer time, so facebook is not for me.
Hope you're having a great week!
Janet
I think it's hilarious there is a book out about it!
I don't use Facebook much, it is fun finding old school friends. I can find out what everyone is doing without having to go to a silly reunion!
I think facebook sort of lost it's point when it opened up to everyone. Before it made sense when it was just for college students and only with a college e-mail could you join.
Then you can find someone easily in a class with you (you used to be able to add your class schedule) and share notes if you missed a day. Now that your great aunt and old neighbor when you were 6 are on there it just feels kinda creepy.
I really should start writing those dummy books too. What do you think of this title "Dummies guide to Microwave popcorn?"
I just found it. Not sure what i think yet but I really don't get all of it. It makes me feel old.
I have never been on Facebook. I spend enough time blogging and don't want to end up "hooked" on something else. Personally, I can't think of anyone from my past that I would need to re-connect with.
I do facebook, but I don't stay on it for hours, I just don't see how people can. The people I have reconnected with, its almost like you are passing them on the street, saying "hey how are you?". It really has not gone beyond that. The friends who I see all the time that are on there, it an easy way to tell them something without hunting them down on the phone. I just give them a quick message between the two of us and go on. Now of course that only works if they get on and check it. :)
I agree. I think it works for some people great. For me, it was too much social drama. I hated to ignore a friend request, but some people I couldn't remember or had sour memories of. Mostly from that really immature time in my life called high school!
I am on Facebook but only because it keeps us in touch with my hubby's siblings that live out of state. Other than that I have NO idea how to use it and I really don't.
You know, I agree with some of the other comments...between blogging and GoodReads, I spend WAY too much time online as it is. Plus, the people I really care about from my past, I've kept in touch with over the years anyway. I think, in my case, it is better to spend my limited energies of the people I know and love that I actually see everyday.:-)
GREAT post.
I blog and facebook...but facebook is so stressful to me. I am even more overwhelmed now with twitter!
I am mixed about facebook--I moved out of state for college and then after I graduated moved again so there are people that I definitely like to connect with--but it seems that they come out of the woodwork and some of them I'm not all that excited about "re-connecting" with. I can take it or leave it and lately, I've been leaving it. I like blogging more!
I lived in the past for too long. The last thing I want to do is go back to it! I'm a present and future girl now thanks to the Grace of God! So no, I'm not interested in facebook or digging up my "old bones"
I have many friends that love it~ But I'm going to stick to blogging-I do keep track of my kids facebook and myspace though.
Great post!
Robin~♥
I just received an e-mail from a friend that lives in Georgia wanting me to “be her friend” on face book. I’m not sure I want to – I don’t know anything about it (never even visited). I hardly have time most days to blog so I’m looking forward to knowing how you feel about it.
I started FB a couple weeks ago. I have enjoyed seeing where many of the folks I went to high school with are. Some, did not matter too much, in fact I was surprised I receieved a "friend" invite. I hate the "be my friend" kinda thing. But I have had fun looking at friends who live away, their pictures and stuff.
Now, I do wonder about the very personal status updates - I really don't need to know you are in the tub! Or that your child has snoggies!
I like blogging best though!!!
Just a PS to my other note up above, I received a "friend request" from someone who made the last two years of grade school experience pure unbelievable torture for me.... I actually had to sit on that request for almost a week before clicking "confirm" but I have no warm fuzzy feelings about this. It 'twas a dilemma for me...
I prefer blogging 200% over FB.
I like facebook, but I like like like my blogger!!!!
I don't do it, Sandy, and I have no intention of doing it. I'll stick with blogging. Not interested in recording such personal data for anyone, not even myself. A blog is a nobler pursuit. It can be personal, but it's better if it transcends that and shoots higher. :-)
XO,
Sheila
I never did Facebook. I do Myspace, but not to the point of using it daily. As for Facebook I don't know what you do on there all day, but for Myspace, I know that people could spend all day on there browsing other peoples profiles, pictures, and doing meaningless surveys about various topics.
I like to blog! *smiles*
I agree with the past in the past part of it. I tried Facebook and Twitter and they were not for me. I like "old~fashioned communication" like the phone and email! :)
I have been thinking the very same thing this week. I FB but I don't go on there too often or update that often. For me it's a fun way to chat with my brother and family in Georgia where we can all be in on the conversation. But I have had people ask to be friends and I don't even know who they are. It's strange. A few ex's too - and I feel like, we ended it, let's keep it that way!
I prefer blogging. For some reason I don't mind people I don't know reading about me, but it's weird to know that all my neighbors and church friends know what I do as I'm doing it!
My sister is telling me that I need a Facebook but I spend a lot of time blogging. She told me that I could get in touch with people that went to my high school. Well, I went to a private school with some snobs. They did not care for me much then and I've heard from my friend, that a lot of them are still the same. I am not sure what I would have in common with them, but I may breakdown and start a Facebook just to see what happens.
I tried for about 3 weeks to like it and learn it. I haven't connected with it at all. I feel badly cause my family uses it and no one blogs. Just me. Oh and one niece. But I just don't see the point.
Yes I do Facebook...and yes I agree that it gets a little crazy sometimes. It's true the things we share on Facebook or Blogger...or Myspace or Twitter...or whereever...are things that 20 years ago would have been written in a journal or diary. I guess things change...times change.
Facebook has helped me reconnect with so many wonderful people from elementary school, high school and former states that we lived in when we were first married. It has also helped me get to know my fellow bloggers a lot better as well. I love everything about it but I've learned to only spend a certain amount of time on there per day.
I like that it has helped me to find some really old girlfriends but I am finding that I go on there less and less.
Hi...
I like face book... Its really funny .keep it up....
I've recently gotten back into Facebook and OMG its such a timesuck...but for me, right now, it's also a nice distraction and a way to reconnect with old friends from high school.
Sorry I can't leave a longer comment...I've got to hurry so I can update my FB status to let the world know I just stubbed my toe. *lol*
P.S. Shhhh, don't tell anyone, but I also FB because I can keep track of my teenage kiddos!
I don't really think I would like Facebook. I don't care to live in the past and I wouldn't want to hurt anyone's feeling by not talking to them if they wanted to talk to me. Not my kind of thing. I have started to twitter, but I think that's another story. I don't have it set up with my full name so people can't really look me up. I talk to bloggy friends, so at least I'm choosing people that I want to talk to now, not 20 years ago!
-Kim
Okay I do get on Facebook, but I agree with you! I am "on the fence" and you made some great points...I love your posts!
Jennifer
I am so excited to see this post!
I would LOVE to know what everyone feels is the difference between blogging and Facebook.
To me, at least in Facebook you have the choice to approve who reads your words... but in blogs, it is/could be mainly strangers...
I guess I never publicized my blog to my friends and family, so it is basically NOONE who reads it. Where in FB, I actually can have conversations with family and friends.
I think it is the possibility of interaction that appeals to me in FB... vs...the voyeuristic feeling of blogging.. just reading about other peoples lives..
I love them both, and use one to connect with my family and friends and one to meet new people and get great ideas for my home!
I feel pressured to facebook, but I am avoiding it. I spend so much time online as is, I don't want to add anymore time suckers to my life.
You took the words right out of my mouth about the 'status updates' stuff. I do have a FB page. Growing up military and now being a military spouse we have folks all over and it is so hard to keep track of friends. In the AF you seem to always run into folks down the road again so it's neat to see pics of the families (since they don't blog) and I've found and been found by old school friends which is neat since I went to school in England and wouldn't have found them otherwise!
But...when I go to check on FB and see that folks have their status thingy saying they are watching tv, cooking dinner, going to the gym... it isn't my thing. I don't do that part of Facebook!
i know someone who wanted me to join fb ...
but i said to her .. why? when i can call you and we can talk!!
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i enjoy listening to kids shreek in the back ground, potties flush and stuff like that ..
that is life..
deep and rich and funny ..
Oh my.. how I love Facebook! There are people who I haven't really seen since high school with whom I now chat daily (I cannot WAIT til my next reunion, because I'll KNOW what's going on!), and there are folks from college with whom I'd lost touch as my military husband and I moved around. And then, there's my next door neighbor, with whom I can set up walks and playtimes. And my best friend from years past, who was diagnosed with breast cancer in Nov. And we've gotten so much closer, and I know what's "up" with her. And my high school and college groups.. and the women's class group that I set up .. and being able to "poke" my brother in Tennessee... and SO many other ways and people that are changed because I can REACH them now. I'm thinkin' that Satan may have well created Facebook, but it's gotten away from him now....
Please let me know if you get the potato gun going; you KNOW we'd love to be there. Take care//I'm falling asleeep over here..!
Facebook...it is a great way to track your teens. My daughter forbids me to comment though =/
I have a facebook account and can relate to what you are saying! I often wonder who really cares what I'm currently doing!
Whoa.. sorry about that, Sandy.. I must've somehow cut and pasted or something into that entry! A friend is planning to shoot off a potato gun and I was commenting on her site. I think I must've had 2 windows open in my browser and got things transposed. I better go look at what I wrote on her blog! You can see by the timestamp that it WAS late and I was falling asleep! Too crazy...
I do FB and I really do enjoy it. It is wonderful for groups (like MOPS, Bible Studies, etc) to stay connected to their ladies. I've grown closer to the people I see all the time and those I haven't seen in years. We have moved several times in life though, so that is a big draw for me. For people who have lived in the same area their whole lives I cannot imagine it being quite as interesting.
I am careful to only post "relevant" updates or conversation stimulating ones. The whole "going to the store..."; "eating a banana..." stuff does get annoying.
You can spend hours and hours playing games, throwing snowballs, sending virtual Starbucks, etc. on it but I don't do any of the "extras." Just isn't worth the time and you have to allow your profile access to each one separately.
That's my two cents! ;)
I totally agree with you. I do have facebook, i started it about a year ago when i was ill, i mainly spent my time taking the quizzes. I must admit i liked posting and looking at others photos, but now i'm finding it borring and only check on it everynow and then to see if some more piccies go up. Even then i only want to see photos of people i actually know!!
That's right. Some people are meant to be memories! I went ahead and accepted some old friends and then deleted them later. Sounds rude but really.. do I care. What I don't get is: twitter. I'm on twitter, but I'm not even sure why. When I write a decent post, I post a link to it, but other than that, I'm not really sure what it is about.
My daughter asked me to join FB When I did I saw a lot of my nieces and nephews were there. In that respect I think it's wonderful to be in close touch. But how close is another thing. The way FB "tattle tales" is pretty annoying to me. I get alerts that tell me little obvious things like when someone has changed their icon picture. Good post topic. Abraham Lincoln said it nicely...."For those that like that sort of thing...it is just the sort of thing they would like." xox
Hi there...I do have facebook, but you are SOOO right. People spend HOURS on it...WHY?? Well, I may not spend hours on there, but blogging...I do. I am fairly new at it too, but I find that I am HORRID at keeping a journal...every entry is an apology to what...my book?...for not writing. My blog is my family's journal, and my life. Yes, the world can see it, but isn't that how journals end up eventually anyhow...?? The stories that our children tell their children, etc. It all works for me!! Love your blog!
Yes, me!! Fun but addicting just like the computer, blogging, ebay etc.. What did I do without a computer.
I am roaring! Seriously, we've had the exact same conversation. I joined for 2 reasons- 2 friendships I wasn't quite ready to let die...that's the avenue they've chosen to keep in touch, so... My plan- once in a blue moon now that the essentials are there for any who want to snoop on my current life.
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